How to fill your kids’ love tank (on Valentines and every day)

These times are difficult, and if you’re like me, you are struggling to balance work, home, and all of the different things you are currently worried about. Sometimes, even when I believe my children know I love them, I don’t always do enough to fill their love tank. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, but why do we tend to focus heavily on showing love on Valentine’s Day, rather than all year long?

The best thing we can give anyone is our time- and today I’d like to share some simple, fun and easy ways to fill your child’s love tank all year long.

1. Spend time with them

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Kids won’t care if you spend a lot of money. I always thought we had to buy something or pay for an experience for the kids to be happy. My kids are perfectly happy to play with us in the backyard or help cook dinner. Ask your kid what they enjoy doing the most with you and go from there.

2. Listen to them…actually listen

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Sometimes, in the age of devices and screens, good conversation falls by the wayside. I try to have at least one good conversation a day with my kids- ask them about their day, what they think about a song playing on the radio, or something. Kids have lots of interesting things to say and sometimes they just want to know someone cares about what they have to say.

3. Snuggle

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Snuggling doesn’t have to be just snuggling. Snuggle up together with a good book or while watching a movie. Kids feel safe and loved when they’re near you.

4. Let them make a decision

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You don’t have to let them make a major decision- it can be something simple, like “What are we doing today?” or “What would you like for dinner?” Kids feel important when you let them choose.

Lastly, I try to get one good hug in with my kids and husband every day. It helps us connect to one another and feel loved. What are some ways you fill your kids’ love tank on a regular basis?

Why We Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Why We Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Last year, Americans spent about 19.7 billion on cards, flowers and candies for Valentine’s Day. This year, it is believed that Americans will spend on average $138 per person on the holiday.

But why do we celebrate Valentine’s Day each year? And who is St. Valentine? History.com says this:

The Catholic Church recognizes three different St. Valentines. One story involves Emperor Claudius III of Rome, who decided single men made better soldiers. As a result, he outlawed marriage. St. Valentine found the marriage ban to be unfair, so he defied the Emperor and married the soldiers in secret. When his actions were discovered, he was put to death.

Other stories suggest St. Valentine may have been killed for helping imprisoned Christians escape their harsh conditions. Yet another story says an imprisoned Valentine sent the first Valentine himself to his jailer’s daughter. He even signed it, “From your Valentine,” an expression we still use today.

While Valentines Day has pagan roots, the holiday became associated with love in the Middle Ages. The earliest written Valentines were thought to be from around 1400. The oldest known valentine in existence is from 1415, and was written by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife who was imprisoned in the Tower of London.

Today, we celebrate Valentine’s Day with festivals, parades, gifts, and spending time with our loved ones.

How will you celebrate Valentine’s Day this year?