How to Ease Tension and Make Isolation with the Family an Enjoyable One by Guest Writer Emma Grace Brown

By Emma Grace Brown, Guest Writer

Possibly one of the few good things that came out of the pandemic has been the opportunity to spend more time at home and with the family. But as anyone who’s been stuck in quarantine for months with their loved ones can attest, it’s something that can quickly get old. Indeed, along with the cabin fever of being holed up at home for months on end amidst the fear and uncertainty of the pandemic, it has not been rare for tempers to flare up and relationships to fray. Bored and restless kids start to create havoc, while stressed-out parents become irritable and impatient.

Of course, this is only natural. And while the self-isolation tension itself can further add to the stress of the entire situation, it can also be alleviated with a few lifestyle tweaks. Indeed, how your household spends its time in lockdown really does matter, especially to ensure that everyone maintains mental wellness. Let’s explore the best ways you and your family can use all these extra time so that peace and harmony reign in your home.

Stay Engaged and Productive

Again, bored kids are almost always up to no good, which will test your patience when you’re stuck in isolation. It is for this reason that you must take measures to keep them engaged throughout the day so that they’re never idle enough to make trouble. It’s a good idea, therefore, to have an arsenal of activities that are fun and interesting to keep kids entertained for hours on end. Bonus points if they’re educational, as well, so they can be productive at home, too.

Among the best ways to do exactly that is by making art with kids. It’s fun, simple, and satisfying, plus art materials are affordable and easy enough to acquire. This is especially beneficial for kids with learning disabilities as art can be a wonderful means of self-expression, while, at the same time, encouraging self-confidence where it’s most needed. 

Use Screen Time Wisely

Now, it’s oft-said that screen time is best limited for kids, especially younger ones, as it can harm their development. While this remains true in isolation, this isn’t to say that they should completely do without. In fact, technology has been a real godsend during the lockdown, and it can certainly help keep restless little minds and bodies at bay. The key is to set real limits and actually enforce them. The quality of what they’re watching, listening to, or playing is even more important, so you also need to control and sanction content.

It’s no doubt screen time will increase as school starts, with children spending more time on laptops and Chromebooks. While this obviously helps keep them occupied when you’re working, too many people on one network can slow things down for everyone, sometimes significantly. Thus, leading to more household tension. If you’ll all be using the internet at the same time, make sure you have enough bandwidth so lag time isn’t an issue. In some cases, it might be worthwhile to switch to a network that’s designed for gaming. These networks provide significantly faster speeds, making it easy to avoid losing your connection during a virtual meeting. 

Organize and Declutter Together

It’s easy for paperwork, books, sports gear, knick-knacks and the like to pile up for busy families. When this happens, tensions can quickly flare, especially if everyone is constantly at home together. To avoid this, decide as a family how to effectively organize and declutter your entire home. So it’s not totally overwhelming, have a plan of attack every weekend, with everyone having a set area or plan for cleaning and organizing. Once you’ve got everything organized and cleaned up, you’ll likely enjoy fewer arguments, save time and your home will feel more like the safe haven it’s supposed to be. 

Ease Back Into the Outdoors

Finally, as lockdown restrictions are removed in many areas, it may be high time to take your family outside again. Among nature’s many gifts are opportunities for relaxation, which could be exactly what the entire family needs after months spent stuck indoors. 

The beauty of this is your family can spend more time outside in so many different ways, as there’s certainly no dearth of things to do. So whether you want to go camping or spend a day at the beach, or maybe take a jaunt to a nearby park or even just your backyard, you will already be offering your family the gift of stress relief and a refreshing cure for cabin fever.

Suffice it to say, time in self-isolation is not at all easy, but there is really no need to add the additional stress and worry of family tension to it. By making use of the right activities and tools like gadgets, as well as nature’s inherent benefits, you can make this extra time at home less tense and more pleasurable, as it should be.
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Clean routines and parenting: keeping a weekly cleaning schedule

Trying to keep a tidy house is hard when you have small children. It’s even harder when you’re at home all the time with those small children, due to the coronavirus pandemic. We have always had a weekly cleaning schedule that worked pretty well for us, but now I’m making it a point to incorporate a little extra deep cleaning, in honor of the current pandemic.

Our weekly cleaning schedule is laminated, framed, and hanging in our laundry room.

This definitely doesn’t mean that we are perfect. Not even close. Even though this schedule is hanging on our wall in a frame, there are days when our stuff doesn’t get done and when we let messes linger for too long. And while the Friday chores are typically deep cleaning tasks, I’d gotten a little creative in how we deep clean these days.

Typically we spend two weekends a month deep cleaning. While we are at home self quarantining, we are choosing to vigilantly follow a deep cleaning schedule. We are following our daily task schedule, but we are mopping and cleaning bathrooms twice a week. We are also making it a point to remove shoes at the door and do a deep cleaning task every weekend instead of every other weekend. The kids and I are trying to work together to make the chore of the day happen.

We are also currently homeschooling and I’m teaching from home too. We are struggling to find the balance but we are OK. We are getting there and we are making it work.

And while we are on the subject of house cleaning to combat the germs, have you considered incorporating a little self care into your day? Staying home is not easy for some of us, and as a result, your mental state can suffer. Remember to do something that lifts you up each day- it could be something as simple as taking a walk or Facetime calling people you miss, to gardening, to reading a book, or taking a hot bath. Either way- don’t neglect YOU!

We will see you soon with our spring home tour! Until then, stay safe and stay healthy. Thanks for reading!